baby / miscarriage

my TCC journey, we’re actually pregnant wow

03.29.22

well, an update i’ve wanted to share for years now– i’m 12w along with our rainbow babe.

i’m still having a hard time getting comfortable with the idea that this time could be for real, but this is the furthest we’ve gotten, so i’m trying to be optimistic! it’s very hard!

deciding to not do ivf

since my last update, i was weighing if we should do IVF or not. i had done the hysteroscopy procedure but we also felt like we wanted a sure thing and couldn’t go through another loss — so we were leaning towards IVF and did the testing we needed to do and as soon as my doctor sent me the IVF calendar i freaked. 

i looked at it over and over and i just felt like i wasn’t emotionally there yet. it felt really weird to listen to my gut, because i have trouble doing that — but i did and i decided i just wasn’t ready.

so we decided lets just try one more time on our own… we used mosie baby again and it worked again. if you’ve tried on your own only with no luck, i highly recommend trying mosie baby. not only is it a very painless process it’s worked both times i’ve used it and it’s really nice to just watch a movie while hopefully conceiving a baby lol.

completely changing my entire mentality all of a sudden

after we tried that– i started thinking, why do i want a baby this much? why have i revolved my life around having one for almost two years now??? we could have a second baby and it could suck and we’d be like why did we want this so badly? and our life is SO CHILL right now, arlo’s at the age where he’s finally becoming more independent and we sleep so well and all of this.

not sure if that was a defense mechanism or if i just had a change of heart but i felt very strongly that this was a crazy road i was on and life was pretty good as is.

so of course, i didn’t get my period and got a positive pregnancy test hahah. i guess i had to want it less lol. at first my newfound one and done epiphany helped ease my anxiety in between doctor appointments because i decided either way i’d be happy.

since then i’ve naturally become more attached to the idea again.

but we did make a pact that if something goes wrong, we’re buying tickets to tokyo because that is our dream trip and something we can’t do with a new baby. 

my symptoms so far

it’s been a very mellow pregnancy so far, alarmingly mellow for someone in my position.

the only symptoms i’ve had was lethargy the first few weeks (i’ve slowly gotten some energy back and feel basically normal but still the usual amount of lazy), very huge sore boobs (i already don’t really fit in my bras) and a strange sporadic smell sensation…

for about a week all i could smell was a hamster cage, and the next week feet. couldn’t it be like flowers or pizza or something lol. 

the psychic was right (!!!)

what’s very weird is that the psychic i spoke to in december didn’t see me doing IVF, and i don’t think i based my decision off of her saying that (lets hope not), but somehow she was right even though i was mentally prepared to do it at that time! 

she saw it happening again and this time being the time and she saw a girl or a boy with feminine energy.

well she was right, we found out it’s a girl :)

finding out the sex

i know i’m so lucky to potentially have a healthy baby i should be happy no matter what — but oh man i wanted a girl so much.

the bond i have with my parents is just so different than my brother and he never plans their birthday parties like i do hahaa. (although i’d like to think the way i’m raising arlo, he’d definitely want to plan parties for me someday.) i’ve just always wanted a daughter and tbh i wanted it so much i expected it to be a boy because i thought there’d be no way i’d actually GET THE THING I WANTED!? 

anyway, gid didn’t want to do a reveal thing at ALL, but i love a surprise moment so i had him watch the video from our genetic testing and we had arlo draw something pink and something blue on cards — then i had gid put into a box and opened the box with my parents on facetime. i’m so glad i get to have the memory to watch over and over. i’ve watched it 800 times already. 

YOU CAN WATCH THE VIDEO HERE

baby girl due october 2022 

AND we’ll have another spooky kid! because it’s me, and i go soooo hard for holidays, i’m already planning to try to schedule a c-section for the earliest i can so that i’d have as much time before halloween to recover hahaha. 


anyway, we’re excited. we’re cautiously optimistic. we are trying to figure out how to break the news to arlo because he’s gonna be pissed hahah. 

and i’m sending love always to those of you still on your TTC journey. you are not alone. it’s a painful journey that is only made more painful by how little we all feel like we can talk about it.

20 comments on “my TCC journey, we’re actually pregnant wow”

  1. the best thing i’ve seen on the internet all frickin year. congratulations, mazel tov, sending all my love xoxo

  2. I’m so happy for you! Here’s wishing and hoping that you guys get to go trick-or-treating this year with a baby in hand.

  3. Congrats!!!! Such good news after such a long heartbreaking struggle! My son was pissed about his younger sister too and hated her guts for the first 1.5 years. But now he loves her so much and they play all the time and hug one another when they are reunited after school. I’m sure Arlo will adjust eventually!!!

  4. What absolutely wonderful news! Rainbow after a storm (or several). Congrats to you and your sweet family. I’m optimistic and hopeful for you and that little miracle growing in your belly!

  5. Congrats!!! Also, you are in luck because now you’re going to have TWO kids that throw you doubly amazing parties.

  6. So happy for you! My birthday is in October and it was so fun because I would always have Halloween costume birthday parties. She’ll fit right into your spooky family!

  7. a baby girl 🥰 So happy for your family, if you don’t mind me asking, did you ever find a reason for your miscarriages?

  8. I was born on Halloween and it’s been so fun all these years to have everyone in a mood to party! So don’t fret if you’re late.
    Congrats!

  9. I am SO thrilled for you! I’ve watched your reveal reel several times and it makes me cry every. single. time. <3<3<3 Thank you for being so open about your journey. It's been so helpful and a comfort to have someone to relate to.

  10. Yay and congratulations!! I’ve never commented on your posts before, but I so enjoy your blog. Beyond happy for your little lady to join your gang.
    (Lol it’s weird to be so excited for a stranger on the web, but thus is our world nowadays).

  11. Hello, long-time lurker here and mom of two rainbow babes (boy and girl, 5 and 2). I couldn’t be more thrilled for you. I also got my + in springtime (both, actually). Your posts are courageous and valuable and I just wanted to say all of us out here in internet land are cheering for you right now.

  12. Legit ugly cried watching your reveal. That was so special. I’m sure it was tough to share all this but gonna help so many women who’s had similar experiences including me. Rooting for you and sending all the positive vibes to you and your fam!!… Gonna now go stalk your Amazon favorites in a non creepy way bc you have the best style. Thanks for all the inspo ❤️

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